Mom of young daughter shares open letter to teen boy at skatepark, letter goes viral


CAMBRIDGE, Ontario --  A mother who recently took her young daughter to a rough-and-tumble skatepark learned more than she thought she would.

And her lesson had little to do with skateboard ramps.

Jeanean Thomas posted her story to Twitter earlier this month. Titled, "Dear teenage boy at the skate park," Thomas' post starts out by appearing to admonish skatepark regulars: teenage boys.

"You're probably about 15 years old," Thomas starts. "So I don't expect you to be very mature or for you to want a little girl on your skate ramp for that matter."

Thomas continues by explaining how after months of her young daughter telling her she wanted to skateboard, the mother and daughter gathered up their courage and went to the local park. Upon entering, though, the mother had different thoughts.

"So when we walked up to the skate park and saw that it was full of teenaged boys who were smoking and swearing, (my daughter) immediately wanted to turn around and go home," Thomas writes.

But the pair step into the park anyway. And as the daughter tentatively puts her board on the concrete and looks down the ramp, the unexpected happens.

Thomas explains in her full post:

 

You’re probably about 15 years old, so I don’t expect you to be very mature or for you to want a little girl on your skate ramp for that matter.

 

What you don’t know is that my daughter has been wanting to skateboard for months. I actually had to convince her that skateboarding wasn’t for just for boys.

 

So when we walked up to the skate park and saw that it was full of teenaged boys who were smoking and swearing, she immediately wanted to turn around and go home.

 

I secretly wanted to go too because I didn’t want to have to put on my mom voice and exchange words with you.

 

I also didn’t want my daughter to feel like she had to be scared of anyone, or that she wasn’t entitled to that skate park just as much as you were.

 

So when she said, “Mom it’s full of older boys,” I calmly said, “So what, they don’t own the skate park.”

 

She proceeded to go down the ramp in spite of you and your friends flying past her and grinding rails beside her.

 

She only had two or three runs in before you approached her and said “Hey, excuse me ...”

 

I immediately prepared to deliver my “She’s allowed to use this park just as much as you guys” speech when I heard you say, “Your feet are wrong. Can I help you?”

 

You proceeded to spend almost an hour with my daughter showing her how to balance and steer, and she listened to you – a feat not attained by most adults.

 

You held her hand and helped her get up when she fell down and I even heard you tell her to stay away from the rails so that she wouldn’t get hurt.

 

I want you to know that I am proud that you are part of my community, and I want to thank you for being kind to my daughter, even though your friends made fun of you for it.

 

She left the skate park with a sense of pride and with the confidence that she can do anything, because of you.

 

Jeanean Thomas

 

Cambridge


The letter was picked up and published by the Camridge Times. Commenters on the newspaper's website said the story is an example of how stereotypes are often wrong.

"Awesome," commenter Wayne writes. "Thanks for showing stereotypes are never right. And teenage boys emulate the adults they see. Doesn't make them bad, just means they hate being told do as I say, not as I do."